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Just have to ask if I'm the only one to really see this stuff

Postby MemberSince99 » Sat Aug 03, 2013 9:21 pm

I've been doing a lot of interacting with people for various reasons these days, and I have to say that by and large it's not a pleasant experience.

You get the occasional stranger who will smile and say hi, but wow, the rest is something else. Dating, or attempting to, women seem to act like they are some kind of a prize and you are a bank account to be milked for as much as possible for the priviledge of paying for her to be with you for a couple of hours. Um, sorry sweetie, you're no prize, and it's no priviledge to sit in your company listening to you drone on about the Kardashians and your ex's believe me. Oh what's that you'll have another expensive drink on me, great. Where's the door.

Dealing with employers looking for a new job, I won't bore you with that, but let's just say the level of arrogance is so bad (worst I've ever seen and I've been working since 1982) that I quit looking because I'd rather stay where I am than deal with even worse. And I'm LUCKY because at least I got interviews - thousands if not millions don't. Though I sure didn't feel lucky in the interview being toyed with and having them try to brainwash me with how overpaid I am and what a hell of a favor they'd be doing to hire me at half my current pay, but I'm just an ingrate I know. (I've got a rear end they can kiss)

And even meeting strangers, sure the occasional one will smile and say hello but most of them look at you like you're Charles Manson, I kid you not. That's assuming they even look which most won't directly do.

And I think wow what kind of society is this we live in - all afraid of each other and hating each other. Pretty sad if you ask me.

Personally the most positive interactions I have anymore is on here. That's good as a reflection on you guys but kind of sad if you really think about it.

It's sure not the country I grew up in anymore in a lot of ways, most of them unfortunately bad in my view. And I'm not even talking about the horrid economy, the "Big Brother" government and how utterly corrupt it is, the police state mentality where they arrest kids for burping in class and torture and gulags are the "in" things, and all that stuff, that's a whole other story. When I grew up you didn't have schools like prisons or Nazi death camps, you didn't have the government trying to know everything you say write do and even think (they would if they could), and you had the hope, the dream that if you went to school and worked hard you could have a piece of the dream someday. You didn't have to worry that if you peacefully protested or expressed your view that the cops would rush in and club the living hell out of you and arrest you and throw you in jail to be used as the toy of real criminals. What a different country we used to be. Hard to believe.


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Postby Midori » Sat Aug 03, 2013 10:36 pm

Looks like you hang around a lot of people who can't see past themselves. You need to break out of where you're at, and get exposed to different groups of people. Find a way to focus on bettering others' lives to distract yourself from your dissatisfaction with other people's self-centeredness. Not in a throw-money-at-a-charity sort of way, but in a roll-up-your-sleeves-and-be-in-the-trenches sort of way. Expose yourself to people that you never would have interacted with. You'll find plenty of selfishness there, too, and plenty of ignorance--- but there is tremendous opportunity and fulfillment in being able to love and serve people around you. Use it as an opportunity to grow yourself.

Read. Read to better yourself. Expose yourself to the ideas of great thinkers. Philosophical, scientific, theological attitudes towards the meaning of life, the soul, the universe, well-being, morality, what we're supposed to accomplish during this time. You don't want a Kardashian diet, so get yourself some meat and potatoes.

When things are wrong with the world, it's your job to make sure that your corner of the universe is well-ordered. The people around you aren't helping, so it's time to add in new people and places and ideas to your routine.

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Postby Robrus1 » Sat Aug 03, 2013 11:00 pm

Midori wrote:Looks like you hang around a lot of people who can't see past themselves. You need to break out of where you're at, and get exposed to different groups of people. Find a way to focus on bettering others' lives to distract yourself from your dissatisfaction with other people's self-centeredness. Not in a throw-money-at-a-charity sort of way, but in a roll-up-your-sleeves-and-be-in-the-trenches sort of way. Expose yourself to people that you never would have interacted with. You'll find plenty of selfishness there, too, and plenty of ignorance--- but there is tremendous opportunity and fulfillment in being able to love and serve people around you. Use it as an opportunity to grow yourself.

Read. Read to better yourself. Expose yourself to the ideas of great thinkers. Philosophical, scientific, theological attitudes towards the meaning of life, the soul, the universe, well-being, morality, what we're supposed to accomplish during this time. You don't want a Kardashian diet, so get yourself some meat and potatoes.

When things are wrong with the world, it's your job to make sure that your corner of the universe is well-ordered. The people around you aren't helping, so it's time to add in new people and places and ideas to your routine.


That's some great advice for everybody.

And 99, yeah, I agree that people aren't as nice as they should be and the U.S. isn't the same as it once was, but that's just (a sad) part of life, as you know. Personally, I don't like the direction that smart phones/texting/internet videos/crappy music is taking the country, poor taste is abundant. It drives me crazy (extreme pet peeve) when I go have lunch or dinner with someone (especially my girlfriend) and they sit there texting and facebooking while I just sit there and stare at them wondering what happened to a good ol' conversation.

In the end, I just try to not hang on to all of the crap, and focus on what makes me happy, and holding on to that. I feel like I don't have time for all of the hobbies I'd like to engage in, but I still make time for a few. Just try not to hold on to the things that the idiots in your life say/do. It's tough, but worth it. Beer makes me happy, so often times I will have enough beer to forget whatever it was that I was upset about in the first place!
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Postby nismoZtuner » Sat Aug 03, 2013 11:24 pm

Intresting. Great advice for a 21 y/o and i sure notice how people these days are.
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Postby djrez4 » Sun Aug 04, 2013 8:30 am

MemberSince99 wrote:And even meeting strangers, sure the occasional one will smile and say hello but most of them look at you like you're Charles Manson, I kid you not. That's assuming they even look which most won't directly do.


I told you not to carve that swastika in your forehead.


On one level, you may be correct. If so, that's a self-perpetuating change. It's difficult not to respond to dickish behavior in kind and it takes a level of maturity beyond that of the general population to turn the other cheek and embrace someone who has just been a dick to you.

On the other hand, you generally receive back what you put out in the world. You're not a bad dude, Member, but you generally don't have much faith in humanity.

I suggest focusing within yourself rather than on the behavior of other people. You can't control them. You can control you. Shift your attitude. Become the duck, off of whose back water rolls. Life is much happier when you cease worrying about how other people behave.

As an aside - you may want to filter your dates by level of Kardashian knowledge.
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Postby Z06Biker » Mon Aug 05, 2013 6:20 pm

It's like they need to be told, "oh, hold on, let me call Earth real quick and tell her to stop revolving around the sun so she can revolve around you instead."

I don't think it's your perspective that needs changing, just the crowd.
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