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There's a lot to be said for staying single

Postby MemberSince99 » Sat Jul 27, 2013 6:49 pm

If you don't want a rant, just exit now, but I gotta get this out.

Been working on trying to establish a relationship (I know it's a loony idea to begin with). Today of course, I'm the anti-christ. Why? I kid you not two reasons - first is we are short a person and a half at work (one is out, the other goes to the hospital for some procedure every day) out of a 3 person department. That leaves a burden to fall on me, and damn, some nights I drive home just exhausted, but I still had to work on the weekend to get stuff done.

Because of that I haven't had my usual pep. I confess to being guilty, and working for a living sucks what can we say. But because of that I didn't want to get together a couple of nights although we got together others.

Because of this, and the fact that I did not read what she wanted (she wanted help this afternoon but didn't tell me I was just expected to know that somehow) without her telling me, well I'm a jerk.

I kid you not. My mind, being a logical programmer sort of guy is just boggled by this.

I mean are all the single chicks nuts, or is it just me? How do you make a relationship work when you are supposed to read minds?

I see why I stayed single. She'd say it's just because you are a loser who can't get anyone decent but then the obvious point is well I had you so what does that show about you.

Man I'm utterly frustrated. I thought I dealt with insanity at work - relationships are DOUBLE the insanity. There is a lot to be said for being single.

And by the way I think I snapped a bit at people last weekend, and I apologize for that. The work stress has been bad, and then dealing with this, it's no excuse, but I do apologize for snapping at anyone.


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Postby Moneytalks » Sat Jul 27, 2013 7:43 pm

......sounds like you could use a drink 99
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Postby MemberSince99 » Sat Jul 27, 2013 8:19 pm

Nah just some "me time" will get my head screwed back on right.

And dealing with management will seem at least somewhat sane by comparison now so that's a plus. :)

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Postby ivotedale » Sat Jul 27, 2013 8:22 pm

@MemberSince99, I'd totally be down for getting you a drink if I could!

For my personal life right now, a girl is one of the last things I'm thinking about. I tried to build a relationship in Feb, and it was a let down. As far as my relationship "resume" is concerned, I'll be honest in saying I've only truly dated one girl for about 3 years- she ended up breaking up with me over the phone, at a volunteer camp in Chicago, to leave me for another dude. Long story short, they didn't last too long, but she's now married to a guy she met at Chili's, whom she hadn't known for more than three weeks (cue 500 Days of Summer, right?).

Anyway, that was years back and I'm over her, however it's like she set somewhat of a standard if that makes sense. I feel you though; one of my mental barriers of not getting into dating again is saying "they're all the same, all of them want you to read their minds and be difficult and naggy."

So because of that, I think I'm taking advantage of this time to focus on moving out of Arizona to NYC or similar, and focus on my career more and more. Besides, more money for me!

We should rename this forum the singles club haha.
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Postby MemberSince99 » Sat Jul 27, 2013 8:28 pm

Nah, no singles club here! Sorry to hear about your experience.

With this one, my plans were to move out of this state next year, the economy stinks and I want to advance in my field and can't do that here. And I hate the weather and the high taxes here. I guess another bright side to it is now I'm free to do that again.

Man my resume is an utter failure, as far as romance goes. I don't really believe in that stuff anymore. I think it's all physical attraction and then you have to live with someone that's just in it for what they can get for themselves, the same as you are, and it's hell trying to deal with that.

Just my take on it. But it proves I'm nuts as I know it's pointless but continue to do it anyway and we all know the definition of insanity! So at least I acknowledge that!

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Postby TheLethargicAge » Sat Jul 27, 2013 10:23 pm

MemberSince99 wrote:I see why I stayed single. She'd say it's just because you are a loser who can't get anyone decent but then the obvious point is well I had you so what does that show about you.


Heh, how many times have I heard the exact same thing from my ex-wife/baby mama?

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Postby im_mr_awesome » Sat Jul 27, 2013 11:20 pm

Gay is where it's at, yo. I've been with my boyfriend for approaching two years and it gets better with time. Maybe we got lucky and are just really compatible. Not sure. I will say besides the intimate stuff, it's like hanging out with your best friend. It's really pretty fantastic.

Since Gay isn't something you should ever experiment with, I won't encourage you to go in that direction. I will, however, suggest moving in this direction with your current relationships. If you have nothing in common, it probably isn't going to be a lot of fun. That whole "opposites attract" thing only works with magnets.
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Postby djrez4 » Sun Jul 28, 2013 9:44 am

im_mr_awesome wrote:Gay is where it's at, yo. I've been with my boyfriend for approaching two years and it gets better with time. Maybe we got lucky and are just really compatible. Not sure. I will say besides the intimate stuff, it's like hanging out with your best friend. It's really pretty fantastic.

Since Gay isn't something you should ever experiment with, I won't encourage you to go in that direction. I will, however, suggest moving in this direction with your current relationships. If you have nothing in common, it probably isn't going to be a lot of fun. That whole "opposites attract" thing only works with magnets.


What's you're describing has nothing to do with gay or straight. You're just in a good relationship.
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Postby Robrus1 » Sun Jul 28, 2013 9:55 am

Relationships are tough sometimes. I've gotten pretty good at apologizing to my girlfriend even if I don't feel I was necessarily wrong just so we can move on and not talk about whatever it was I apologized for ie mind reading. Up until a couple of years ago, I was single and had been single and living alone for a long time. Anyway, I know how you feel man. The good ones are tough to find and the crazies are freakin everywhere.
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Postby Sevenfeet » Sun Jul 28, 2013 10:21 am

Happily married. It's a lot easier when you marry your best friend.
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