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Postby MemberSince99 » Mon Jul 29, 2013 2:05 pm

She was to me. But the resentment started to creep in and before I knew it, not anymore.

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Postby nismoZtuner » Mon Jul 29, 2013 2:34 pm

Robrus1 wrote:I've gotten pretty good at apologizing to my girlfriend even if I don't feel I was necessarily wrong just so we can move on and not talk about whatever it was I apologized for ie mind reading.

Ive been doing that for a while just to move on- expect im not the BF -_-
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Postby DoingHomework » Mon Jul 29, 2013 3:24 pm

Man, if you think single chicks are nuts, try the married ones, lol! Actually that doesn't make sense. The truly nutty ones stay single. So the longer you stay single the nuttier chicks you are going to have to choose from. Get married dude. But that does not solve everything.

Have a beer, buy her some flowers, chill...

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Postby Z06Biker » Mon Jul 29, 2013 7:42 pm

Sevenfeet wrote:Happily married. It's a lot easier when you marry your best friend.


Have you guys tried reading "The Seven Principles For Making a Marriage Work?" Best book on the subject yet.
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Postby ivotedale » Tue Jul 30, 2013 2:18 am

^speaking of marriage, that has been a relative, reoccurring theme in attempting to build relationships for me recently.

I believe the last four or five women I've gotten to know, whom I've genuinely wanted to date, were/are either engaged or married- and I'd never knew until I started to show I wanted more than a platonic relationship. Not sure if my subconscious just goes for those particular women, but it sucks!

Forget the marriage talks with me for now; I can't even get a date! haha.
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Postby MemberSince99 » Tue Jul 30, 2013 6:32 am

Poor guy! Well think about it this way - would you REALLY want to marry a woman who is going to be dating around behind your back? If she'll do it to him she'll probably do it to you too.

It's just human nature to want your cake and eat it too - be married and have people on the side.

Sometimes we win by losing.

But it makes me think sometimes what kind of society are we where so many people can't get a job and earn a living anymore (unless you are lucky enough to get 3 part time subsistence jobs and can actually live on it) and can't find a good partner. And don't even get me going about Big Brother wanting to keep tabs on everything you say do and even think if they could do that (and someday they'll probably be able to then none of us will be safe unless we're properly brainwashed).

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Postby Peggy » Tue Jul 30, 2013 6:55 am

This is Peggy, you have relationship problem?

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Postby im_mr_awesome » Tue Jul 30, 2013 10:31 am

Married women and men seem to drop the act that so many women and men have when it comes to dating. They're more relaxed and open toward new people, because they aren't looking for a relationship to plug up their holes. They're already happy, so they appear to be normal and a prime candidate for a relationship with you. I have that problem backwards. I want friendships, but most gay guys I meet either want a relationship or ***, neither of which I am remotely interested in with them.

I will say this for being friends with married women: they really do know others like them who would be thrilled to date you. Be friends just for the sake of friendship. Build a network and get to know people. Eventually you do fine someone you naturally get close to, then it all works. Don't go searching for a relationship, because it puts unnecessary pressure on both of you, which I think forces the crazy out.

Even though this is the ideal way of finding someone, I'll be honest and say the first time I went out with my bf was a few days after meeting online. YMMV wildly on that.
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Postby Gamma » Tue Jul 30, 2013 10:39 am

Sevenfeet wrote:Happily married. It's a lot easier when you marry your best friend.

Yeah that's true, but would you risk losing your best friend if the relationship didn't work out? I'm sure things would drastically change if the relationship didn't work. I speak from experience :(

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