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- Location: WI
The good ones are usually taken and the singles are single for a reason. And I'm single and I include myself in that. I've also been single and alone a LONG time, to the point it's hard for me to imagine it being any other way. And I'm not sure I want to. I like being able to do what I want when I want. I don't have to answer to anyone, and I don't have to beg to drop 20 bucks that I worked my tail off to earn.
And I suppose in a sense she's right - I'm really not interested in playing the "read my mind and determine my needs from the depth of our connection" game. Screw that. I'm a programmer - you want something you TELL me don't assume I can read your mind, that's a skill I've never mastered and never will, are you too damn lazy to open your yap when it doesn't bother you to whine and moan for hours about what a loser I am and telling me all about your ex, even though I don't care to hear it? I mean come on. I'm sick of the BS and the drama I have no time or energy for that crap anymore.
I'm not opposed to trying again, at some point, but what I've decided is next time, she is going to have a job and a car and a place of her own or I'm not interested. You get these chicks with no job living at home then they have all day free and lots of energy you don't have after working all day so they want to get out of the house every night and guess who is expected to do that regardless of how drained from the job you are or how drained your bank account is becoming because you have to pay for it? And on top of that you get to be taxi service too so you have to go get her, take her out, pay, then drive her home and finally pull into your place in the wee hours exhausted and a bit poorer for it, to get up and go to work while she sleeps in, and if you aren't up for it the next night you're a jerk.
I've had more than enough of that. So I got an education here. And yes that's what it was really like. I have my faults and flaws a-plenty, but that's how it truly was in my perspective and I got sick of it quickly. I'm sure from her perspective my inability to do that proves how little I cared and blah blah blah. You know how that goes. Anyway, I left that behind, and I can't say what will happen in the future, but at least now I know more of what I DON'T want.