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Postby Snowman » Sun Jul 28, 2013 10:29 am

True that Sevenfeet. I like to stay single though, less stress and more time to do things that I normally would not have time to do. Sometimes though, I do want a relationship again, but right now is not the right time....
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Postby MemberSince99 » Sun Jul 28, 2013 10:30 am

The good ones are usually taken and the singles are single for a reason. And I'm single and I include myself in that. I've also been single and alone a LONG time, to the point it's hard for me to imagine it being any other way. And I'm not sure I want to. I like being able to do what I want when I want. I don't have to answer to anyone, and I don't have to beg to drop 20 bucks that I worked my tail off to earn.

And I suppose in a sense she's right - I'm really not interested in playing the "read my mind and determine my needs from the depth of our connection" game. Screw that. I'm a programmer - you want something you TELL me don't assume I can read your mind, that's a skill I've never mastered and never will, are you too damn lazy to open your yap when it doesn't bother you to whine and moan for hours about what a loser I am and telling me all about your ex, even though I don't care to hear it? I mean come on. I'm sick of the BS and the drama I have no time or energy for that crap anymore.

I'm not opposed to trying again, at some point, but what I've decided is next time, she is going to have a job and a car and a place of her own or I'm not interested. You get these chicks with no job living at home then they have all day free and lots of energy you don't have after working all day so they want to get out of the house every night and guess who is expected to do that regardless of how drained from the job you are or how drained your bank account is becoming because you have to pay for it? And on top of that you get to be taxi service too so you have to go get her, take her out, pay, then drive her home and finally pull into your place in the wee hours exhausted and a bit poorer for it, to get up and go to work while she sleeps in, and if you aren't up for it the next night you're a jerk.

I've had more than enough of that. So I got an education here. And yes that's what it was really like. I have my faults and flaws a-plenty, but that's how it truly was in my perspective and I got sick of it quickly. I'm sure from her perspective my inability to do that proves how little I cared and blah blah blah. You know how that goes. Anyway, I left that behind, and I can't say what will happen in the future, but at least now I know more of what I DON'T want.

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Postby Robrus1 » Sun Jul 28, 2013 11:47 am

I vote for mail order bride.
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Postby FastSRT8 » Sun Jul 28, 2013 12:10 pm

Lol! Then you read all the news of when they get here, serve you for a year then snap and leave you butchered in a garbage bag. Yikes. Don't know about you but these Russian mail order brides are 'crazy'



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Postby Sevenfeet » Sun Jul 28, 2013 1:16 pm

FastSRT8 wrote:Lol! Then you read all the news of when they get here, serve you for a year then snap and leave you butchered in a garbage bag. Yikes. Don't know about you but these Russian mail order brides are 'crazy'


Believe it. My wife worked for USAID in the former Soviet Union region for years. She can tell you stories...

But seriously, the "never stick your junk into 'crazy'" is a good rule of thumb for anyone, not just mail-order brides. :)
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Postby Midori » Sun Jul 28, 2013 3:03 pm

You know what they say... smart/sane/hot, pick two. :o)

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Postby FastSRT8 » Mon Jul 29, 2013 12:53 am

Easy......

Sane and Hot. Great combo as long as you are SMART.

LOL.

Now look at this poor bloke....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PEPoO08IMog

Midori wrote:You know what they say... smart/sane/hot, pick two. :o)
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Postby Midori » Mon Jul 29, 2013 8:52 am

If she was smart, she'd just go to the lake by herself or with other friends who liked the lake, or would have found a mutually acceptable destination for their together time.
If he was smart, he would have rotated the tires before/during/after work one day instead of scheduling over their plans.
They both lose. They both come off as immature and self-centered, which makes me wonder how his half of the conversation would go if he didn't know he was being recorded for YouTube. :oP

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Postby MemberSince99 » Mon Jul 29, 2013 10:16 am

That's really how it is though. That's how a lot of people are.

Personally I tried to take care of things like that on weeknights to leave the weekends free. The problem with that was, then I wasn't available some weeknights which was unacceptable. Also she had things going on during the weekend and that was ok but God forbid if I did then it shows I don't care.

Man that gets old.

And you know, speaking of this last one, what really got me is we are breaking up and talking about it, and her complaint was she broke plans for her birthday because I had promised to make it a speical one for her. The complaint was I ruined those plans. That's true, I did. And I did promise to make it special. I didn't see us breaking up, and her plans were to spend it on a date with some guy she met online, but she told me neither one of them REALLY wanted to do it, it was just as a backup plan if neither one had anything better going on. That's the plans I broke up. No BS here.

I'm sure she'd diss the hell out of me, but I can say I gave it all I had, and I know better now what I don't want. And that's a chick without a job or a car. You want to be an equal instead of a dependent, you bring something to the table of your own. I don't want a dependent I want a partner or to hell with it.

I had my first day away from it yesterday and it honestly wasn't that bad.

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Postby djrez4 » Mon Jul 29, 2013 1:33 pm

MemberSince99 wrote:That's really how it is though. That's how a lot of people are.

Personally I tried to take care of things like that on weeknights to leave the weekends free. The problem with that was, then I wasn't available some weeknights which was unacceptable. Also she had things going on during the weekend and that was ok but God forbid if I did then it shows I don't care.

Man that gets old.

And you know, speaking of this last one, what really got me is we are breaking up and talking about it, and her complaint was she broke plans for her birthday because I had promised to make it a speical one for her. The complaint was I ruined those plans. That's true, I did. And I did promise to make it special. I didn't see us breaking up, and her plans were to spend it on a date with some guy she met online, but she told me neither one of them REALLY wanted to do it, it was just as a backup plan if neither one had anything better going on. That's the plans I broke up. No BS here.

I'm sure she'd diss the hell out of me, but I can say I gave it all I had, and I know better now what I don't want. And that's a chick without a job or a car. You want to be an equal instead of a dependent, you bring something to the table of your own. I don't want a dependent I want a partner or to hell with it.

I had my first day away from it yesterday and it honestly wasn't that bad.


She sounds dumb and nuts. Was she at least attractive?
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