MemberSince99 wrote:I'd be careful Snowman. You are a great guy don't want to see you end up hurt. That's always a risk with this kind of thing.
As far as a degree, if I had things to do over I'd go to trade school. A hell of a lot cheaper and a quicker path to get a career going. Plumbing for example isn't going anywhere - it's not economically viable to send your plumbing system to India to have them do it, or China or Vietnam or some third world country with slave wages, and they can't just hire burger flippers or unlicensed people to do the work and just get anyone over here on an H1-B to do it for 50 cents an hour either.
You have to figure these days if there is any field they can either offshore or bring slaves over here to do to drive down the pay, EXCEPT business management, they will do it. Thus, everything is pretty much going to hell and we will become a third world country in a race to the bottom. My fervent hope is I manage to keep my job at a living wage long enough to pay off my house before age discrimination and the destruction of the middle class drives me out of the living wage labor force. It's a race against time. Fortunately my employer is currently looking for people and can't find any qualified ones they like so that's good to know, but that could change at any time which is the scary part. But I'd consider something along the lines of vocational and I'be VERY wary of taking on a lot of debt for an education these days. You're a smart guy I'm sure you will do well no matter what!
Member- I really appreciate the kind words. I realize that, but I've been hurt before so I know that feeling and am willing to take that risk. Like one of my friends told me long ago "Look, Whatever you want in life you have to take a risk for it. You want money? you have to earn it and give away your valuable time in order to get it, you want a great relationship? you have to risk being vulnerable and sometimes being hurt and hearing things you don't want to hear in order to have your relationship work". If you don't take it that chance and risk it, you'll never know.
That's probably what I'll be ending up doing if/when I get out of the service. Probably go to school to expand on what I learned in the Navy or try to get into LE. during that time.
onion wrote:A bachelor's by itself is still pretty useful even if you don't end up going to grad school. Lots of entry level jobs won't even consider you if you don't have an AA or BA and are qualified. Proof: I don't have my AA yet (getting it this semester) but have 8 years of experience in the IT field, certifications, and recommendations. Couldn't get a job with Geek Squad and ended up working at Best Buy. After 8 months of ****ty pay, I said screw it and started my own business. Any degree is better than no degree. Also, save money, go to community college for your AA and then go to an undergrad school for your BA. I should have done that but was in such a rush to get out of Miami (hate that city) that I didn't use proper judgement and wasted a bunch of dough.
Really? Everyone I talk to says it's good to a CC or a 4 year if you know what your going to school for. I don't want to keep on wasting my time If I don't why I'm going there, and that's why I'm looking at the Military as well, in addition to my other reasons for joining. Really? I've been to Miami before and I thought it was Ok. I try to explain that to my parents too that I can be 25-26 and still go to school and get my degree. Nothing wrong with going to school a little older and probably more mature IMO.
yfan wrote:Not to pile on the dating advice, but it IS entirely possible you *don't* want to date someone who is a really good friend (or she doesn't want to date you). That doesn't mean she thinks any less of you - but I hope you have made it clear to her that she can say no, and it wouldn't hurt your friendship.
I have a really close friend - and I mean, close enough that I was the first person he called when he got into a car accident and I was the one that went over and forced him to go to urgent care because he said his neck was hurting - and I asked him out once - a couple years or so back. He said no, and that he thought we'd be better as friends. And he was honest about that - in the time since, our friendship truly has grown into something I don't think I could live without today - at least I wouldn't want to think about it. Because of the honesty, it never got weird. I like his current boyfriend, and he likes mine - we hang out together sometimes.
Now, as to the Navy. If your heart says go, then go and join. At the end of the day, you have to follow your heart. I can tell you love this country. That you have chosen to serve it makes it all the better. It's not something everyone does or can do, and you would have the heartfelt thanks of a grateful nation.
That could be the case as well. Maybe she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, especially since she just go out of one and maybe she is feeling vulnerable? I did tell her that regardless we'll always be friends if she says no OR if we're together but then after a while we're not. It won't change much. I just want to know if she feels the same or not...that's why I'm wondering if most girls take this long to decide when I guy asks them out. That's awesome, you guys hang out still! I see you live in SJ...you don't happen to be Indian/Pakistani do you?
As for the Navy, my heart is in it and I want to be a part of something bigger then myself. I really do love this country, simply because of all the opportunities we have here that we don't have in the motherland that we should be thankful for. It'd be an honor to serve and wear the uniform of this countries Navy.