So-- you can give him a prepaid card for $100, and tell him you'll reload it every month, but it's for fuel or food or other necessities of life, so please be careful with it. If he blows it all by October 2nd on cigarettes and Keystone Light, well, that was his decision, and he gets to live with the consequences from October 3rd through the 31st. He'll get the chance to try again in November. And December. And January. But you would have performed your obligation as a parent to try and give him a helpful hand... his poor choice to squander it would be a separate and distinct act.
The miscreant I'm trying to help has a passion for Marlboro and Twisted Tea's. I'd like to help with gas only, for the job; no Slim Jims, cigarettes, or alcohol. I've been burned before by this cat before, but I'd like to help his mother. And yes, not close enough for filling the tank myself, although that's all did for him in the past before the distance grew. So maybe a one time thing, and be done, but it would be nice to have an alternative. He has potential, I'd like to see him succeed, but I won't accept the burden of his afflictions either. You know, a gas pump only pre-paid card would be a helluv an idea. Sure, you could sell a tankful to someone, but it puts the burden on the guy with the card, not the guy paying for it and having to track transactions every month. Thanks for some info, tho.