girlfriend gambling online from my computer - help

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girlfriend gambling online from my computer - help

Postby stavtool » Mon Jun 28, 2010 3:17 pm

So, i just found out that my live-in girlfriend has been gambling online from my apt, using my computer. She took out credit cards in my name that i never knew about. I did not authorize her to ever use my credit, or make purchases on my behalf, or transfer funds out of my checking account. However, she knows everything about me, where i store my email and banking passwords, and all my personal info. She accumulated over $100,000 of gambling debt, paid the credit cards from my checking account electronically, and then rang up another 80,000 of debt on these credit cards, all without my knowledge. My bank account is now empty. This happened over the course of a number of months. How do i prove that it was her and not me? She opened the accounts under my name. She deleted any emails from my email account that would have alerted me to the activity. She intercepted postal mail that would have alerted me to the activity. It looks like on 1 card there was about 80,000, 20,000 on another, and then 80,000 on another card over the course of a year (180k total...maybe 200k). She also directly had funds transferred out of my bank account by using some kind of online pay merchant. (i'm not exactly sure how it works, but now that i'm looking i see all these e-payments...almost like e-checks....i didn't know this was even possible) The last 100,000 occurred over the last 4 months. I never looked at my accounts because i assumed i had tons of cash, no credit card debt and i don't spend very much.

I'm feeling overwhelmed. What should i do? On top of all that, when i confronted her yesterday, she flipped out, said if i declare the fraud that i would be ruining her life, and she threatened to commit suicide. She has no job, and no means of paying this debt. I understand why she feels is because she has Borderline personality disorder (sort of like Bi-Polar) and she has committed a crime that makes her look really bad. Am i responsible for her? If she offs herself, will her parents sue me? This really sucks, i have feelings of guilt, anger, frustration and empathy for her. But, i obviously don't want a relationship with her. Anyway, those are irrelevant details i suppose.

What should i do?

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Postby fffresh » Fri Jul 02, 2010 2:47 pm

The only way to possibly get out of this is hold her accountable. It's unlikely they will believe these are fraudulent unless charges are pressed against her.

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File Charges Now

Postby alsteig » Sat Jul 03, 2010 7:00 pm

Your two choices: keep the crazy live in girlfriend that steals your money fraudulently opens credit cards in your name intercepts emails and lies to you. Oh yah and be on the hook for 180k. Choice number two, file a police report including identity theft fraudulent use of a credit card, wire fraud. Stick everything you can on her. Contact your credit and banking institution immediately. Don't forget to get an eviction started they can take some time. Is she suicidal great tell her to jump or get a shrink. If my live in girlfriend crazy or not, charged any amount on my credit card with intent to deceive me about it. I would go straight to the police station to file a report and charge back with my cc company. She stole 180k from you!!!! Not to mention god knows did what to your credit.

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Agree with Alsteig

Postby Mogul of Pineapples » Sat Jul 10, 2010 11:54 pm

Don't let her hold you hostage by threatening suicide. In California you can report that to the police and she will get a minimum 72 hour hold in a mental hospital if that concerns you. Bring it up to her parents if appropriate too.

Intercepting your mail and stealing hundreds of thousands of dollars? There is no question she needs to move out asap and charges need to be filed. The only way a criminal learns is to be held accountable.
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Postby Robin » Fri Jul 16, 2010 1:07 am

Oh my God. Make her understand the value of money. The problem will be resolved.

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Postby DoingHomework » Mon Jul 26, 2010 2:03 pm

File charges with the district attorney and report her to the FBI. She has committed bank fraud among other crimes. She could easily spend 20 years in prison for this.

I don't know if your post is some kind of joke but if it is true then you are dealing with a very serious crime here and you must turn her in. If you don't you could face charges yourself.

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